Tell Me You Love Me is an American drama television series that premiered on HBO on September 9, 2007.

The series was created by Cynthia Mort and originally conceived as Sexlife. The pilot episode was produced and directed by Patricia Rozema and shot in Winnipeg, Manitoba, while the remainder of the episodes were shot in Los Angeles.^[2] The series was picked up by HBO for a second season in October 2007,^[3] but was ultimately canceled in July 2008 when Mort said she and the network "were unable to find the direction of the show for the second season".^[4]

Tell Me You Love Me revolves around three couples, all of whom seek the help of therapist Dr. May Foster. Katie and Dave are an outwardly happy couple in their forties with two young kids, but the intimacy in their marriage has faded. Carolyn and Palek are thirtysomething professionals who are trying for a baby, but the pressure to get pregnant is taking a toll on them. Jamie and Hugo are in their twenties and are engaged to be married, but have hesitations about trust and fidelity. May herself has relationship problems with her husband Arthur.

The series was filmed in a cinéma vérité style with mostly handheld cameras, giving it a documentary-like feel.^[5][6] Each episode screens without opening credits. The title card for the show is not shown until right before the closing credits. Except for the end of each episode, there is no non-diegetic music.^[7]

The series gained early publicity because of its extremely realistic depictions of sexual intercourse, oral sex and masturbation.^{[8][9][10][11][12]} Despite persistent rumors to the contrary, and a notable lack of comment on the matter from either HBO or the production team, the sex scenes were simulated. Director Patricia Rozema was among those to have addressed this issue directly:

But it's not real, it's simulated. At one point, one of the producers was floating this idea in the trade papers that it would be real sex in the series. I immediately said, "Well, find another director, I don't want to do that." I wasn't interested in that.^[13]

With regard to these controversial scenes actress Jane Alexander has said the following:

You know, people tend to believe those scenes, when they see them, are real, but they're not. They're acted. Our union doesn't even let us have any real sex, not that we would anyway. But just acting with someone like David [Selby], whom I have known for so long, it was fine. Those scenes are never easy.^[14]

On review aggregator Rotten Tomatoes, Tell Me You Love Me has an approval score of 62% based on 26 reviews, with an average rating of 6.4/10.^[15]

The Washington Post's Tom Shales called the series "not only more provocative than any of the broadcast networks' new fall shows, but also more sophisticated -- even than those shows that aspire to be 'adult.'"^[2] Robert Abele of LA Weekly wrote, "It’s a welcome change of pace from the usually sleek, shimmering, big-budget look of HBO's dramas, and recalls the way Ingmar Bergman adapted his cinematic soul-searching to the small screen to achieve an unfussy, probing and still visually striking richness for his you-are-there portrait of a crumbling union in Scenes From a Marriage."^[16]

Maureen Ryan of the Chicago Tribune said, "'Tell Me' does something that we rely on TV at its best — and HBO at its best — to do: Explore something interesting about the human condition, through stories and characters that are specific and memorable."^[17] Frazier Moore of the Associated Press said: "'Tell Me' is nothing if not finely wrought and nuanced, shifting between its parallel narratives (each couple seeing Dr. Foster has minimal contact or awareness of the others in this Southern California community) as the universal issues at the series' heart unfold at their natural pace."^[18] Time's James Poniewozik named it one of the Top 10 New TV Series of 2007, ranking it at #3.^[19]

Writing for The New Yorker, Nancy Franklin said "Tell Me has its flaws, but it's very watchable (and not merely because it’s arousing); its aim is to show you what committed relationships feel like, and how they work, and how strange and fragile and complicated they are."^[20] Alessandra Stanley of The New York Times said "the series is bold in its candor and unhurried attention to detail, but not quite brave enough to lay bare the bleakest, pettiest injuries that can scar a marriage."^[21]

Critics praised the series' realistic and honest depiction of sex, with Abele saying "these scenes practically force us to realize how often sexuality in movies and television acts as a titillating diversion devoid of its own character-enriching qualities."^[16][22][17] Others pointed out how the series' portrayal of the sex lives of a sexagenarian couple is "a rarity, and a commendable one, for a medium so obsessed with youth".^[23][2]

Multiple reviews praised the acting.^{[16][22][23][24]} Of DeKay and Walker, Poniewozik wrote they are "are especially astonishing as a couple who are repressed, overcommitted and yet genuinely in love. Their home life is all friendly small talk, but when they get into therapy, they explode".^[7] Karen Valby of Entertainment Weekly said "Walger's Carolyn is fascinatingly mean and guarded and riveting",^[25] and Abele wrote "Scott's Palek, in particular, is a quiet marvel of suppressed selfishness".^[16]

Others critiqued the show's pacing^[26][24] and commented on how the characters are unlikable.^[27][28] Mary McNamara of the Los Angeles Times said the show lacks "a sense of humor and a certain level of humility."^[29][30] Writing for Entertainment Weekly, Gillian Flynn said, "Tell Me is an incisive drama, but it's not an easy commitment."^[31] David Bianculli of the NY Daily News said, "Whether you wish to commit to 'Tell Me' on a weekly basis may depend upon your tolerance for, or personal experience with, infidelity, infertility and incompatibility. These couples' stories, though, are told very well. Come for the sex, if you must, but stay for the honesty."^[23]

The series was named one of AFI's Television Programs of the Year.^[32]

Vulture ranked Tell Me You Love Me at #35 in its list "Every HBO Show, Ranked", commenting, "The show now seems like a precursor to In Treatment and Togetherness, and perhaps better than both in its frankness."^[33]

Tell Me You Love Me was released on DVD on February 11, 2008.^[36] The release includes four audio commentaries. It received a DVD release in Australia on April 29, 2009. It was released in Israel in 2008.